I was talking to a friend of mine the other day and she was telling me how work has been piling up because she has no time to do anything after having kids. Which made me think what is it that we moms do all day that we can’t take care of all that “other” house stuff. Well if you think about it we don’t really get that much done other than keeping the kids alive. I have fortunately been lucky with a very helpful partner. But sometimes his help is a little misplaced (all in good intention) and that is the case with a lot of men only because we women never ask. Hence I decided I could make a little list of things that women actually need help with.
Doing dishes is one of the single most tedious things in the kitchen. It also takes a lot of mums time and is very hard to do with kids literally under her feet. If you can, help unload the dishes from the dishwasher and wash any left over dishes in the sink in the morning., this 15 minute activity will give mum an extra hour in the day (yes that is how long it takes for a mum).
Help the kids brush teeth and change nappies first thing in the morning. This might give mum some extra Zzzz’s or it might give her time to make you guys a fabulous brekky!
Keeping an eye on that kid!
This is a given and mums do it all the time but sometimes when she is cooking or going to a well deserved bathroom break or you guys are out in the park and mum is going to buy that caffeine and sugar fix, make sure that you keep your eyes on the kids even if they are going after mum. She is probably sleep deprived and exhausted and has forgotten that she has kids…errr… following her, in that exciting moment of having a cuppa that doesn’t taste like dishwashing liquid.
You know what is the best part of putting kids to sleep early? You both can relax, binge watch TV and… fold laundry together! It is one of the best activities my husband and I have started doing together. We aren’t bored because we watching TV, we aren’t feeling the load because of the helping hand and the kids are sleeping so no one can unfold the laundry before you put it away! It is a win win situation 🙂
Take them out
If there is a lot to do at home and mum does not need you to help, just offer to take the kids out so she can have the house to herself which makes things run faster.
Just like morning routine, night-time routine is also a great activity to bond with the kids. Mum has been doing it all day so at night just take the kids to change nappies, brush teeth and put on PJs. Reading them a story is a great way to end the day.
Get her to go out
It is pretty obvious when mum is stuck at home she might get grouchy. It might be a good idea for her to go out with her friends without the kids. Gain yourself some brownie points and send her a for girls night out.
You know in the 70s men expected to come home to a clean house and smiling wife, now that we have established that that’s not possible maybe it is time to turn the tables. When you come home, give her a smile and a long hug, all her tiredness might just float away in those 12 seconds.
We mums do get it that you come back from work tired as well, and feel like you don’t get a break even after coming home. But just think that mums job is 24/7 and she doesn’t get to leave the kids and walk out at the end of the day. You are awesome dad and we all love you!
I forgot to add this but yes ask your partner if she needs something. She might give you a list or but maybe sometimes a smile and hug just for asking!